“Chance can allow you to accomplish a goal every once
in a while, but consistent achievement happens only
if you love what you are doing.”

Love what you do and an amazing byproduct is born — Passion. When you’re passionate about what you do, your career soars. Watch the clock, arrive at eight, and leave at five, and you’re destined to be like everyone else. Or, set yourself apart by waking each day with an unbridled level of energy and passion to achieve vastly more in your business and life than you could possibly fathom. Live every day embracing this philosophy and there’s no limit to what you can achieve.

Have a great weekend!

PRAISE THE LORD!

Doris was found around 2pm Friday. She is doing just fine.

Thank You So Much to everyone that helped us out at this difficult time.

We are so Thankful for all of our wonderful friends. Thanks for all of the emails, concerns

and for helping pass on the information.

Have a Wonderful Day!

 MISSING:

Doris J Martin

  (Jack’s Mother)

  

5′3″

110#

82 years old

White hair

Glasses

Wearing: Brown Slacks, Brown & White Stripped Shirt, SAS toupe shoes & carrying a brown purse.

She left her house in Independence, Kansas driving a Silver 2003 Ford Crown Victoria.

Kansas Veterans License Plate #51989

Doris was last seen at 1:30pm on September 13, 2007

If you have seen her or her car please call us or the police as soon as possible.

620-330-2915 - Jack

620-330-0519 - Lori

Please pray for a safe return!

  

“Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do in our own?”- Brigham Young
Everyone gets the same amount of time every day. We get all there is… 24 hours… fourteen hundred and forty minutes. So, with time being such a precious commodity, why is it that so many of us spend our days worrying? Worry has almost become a national pastime for most! I suppose if we had a contract to live for a lifetime, it wouldn’t be such a big deal, but we don’t. We just have now!

Some of you may be reading this and thinking, “Yeah, she probably doesn’t have anything to worry about.” But, that’s not true. I have plenty to worry about, I just choose not to and I’d like to suggest that you follow suit and resolve right now, as you read this, that you are not going to invest even one of those fourteen hundred and forty minutes worrying… about anything.

Clearly understand, there isn’t any situation that isn’t made worse by worry. Worry never solves anything. Worry never prevents anything. Worry never heals anything. Worry serves only one purpose… it makes matters worse. How? Well, quite simply, when you’re focused on worrying about something, you’ll never be able to focus on a solution. Be aware that your mind cannot focus on two things at the same time… it can either focus on the current situation and worry or a solution. The choice is always yours.

James Kurtz said, “If we worry, we don’t trust; if we trust, we don’t worry. Worry does not empty tomorrow of its grief, but it does empty today of its joy.”

If you have been worrying about something or someone, you can eliminate that worry through displacement. Let its positive opposite crowd it out of your mind and then follow through with constructive action. Everything in the universe has an opposite, even your worries.

You could be worried about not having sufficient time to do some of the important things you have to do today. The truth is you do have enough time if you are willing to give up something else. The busiest person you know, yourself included, would have time to go downtown and pick up a check if you won a lottery. You might neglect doing something else to make the time, but trust me, you would get the check.

When a worry thought occupies your attention, choose the positive opposite to the worry thought and focus your attention on that. No one is without problems; they are a part of living. But let me show you how much time we waste in worrying about the wrong problems. Here are some figures. Here is a reliable estimate of the things people worry about.

Things that never happen - 40%;
Things over and past that can’t be changed by all the worry in the world - 30%;
Needless worries about our health - 12%;
Petty miscellaneous worries - 10%;
Real, legitimate worries - 8%.

In short, 92% of the average person’s worries take up valuable time, cause painful stress-even mental anguish, and, for the most part, are unnecessary. Remember what Dr. Kurtz said, “Worry empties today of its joy.” Don’t worry, be happy!
Have a Fantastic Friday!!

Love is the Cure. ~Darren Hardy

Do what you love and the stress falls away.

The times I have been most stressed, frustrated or unsatisfied in life, are the times when I have been unhappy professionally.

When I am excited and passionate about a business pursuit, no difficulty, problem or set back gives me stress. When I feel fervently about a project I am working on, pressures and problems only intensify my passion and commitment to achievement, thus offering me even more personal fulfillment.

Now, when I am not loving what I am doing, building or pursuing or I am temporarily without a meaningful pursuit, THAT is when I am most unsettled, frustrated and well, STRESSED!

Admittedly I might be a bit of a freak. I have been accused of being a hyper-ambitious over-achiever, but I think most anyone would agree…

If you LOVE what you do and would do IT even over most things recreational, everything in your world translates differently. Challenges become inspirations and set backs only give you the chance to dig deeper and rally harder – all the while having a blast and finding great personal fulfillment in the journey.

Here is how it works:

Stress is created only when there is resistance. If you don’t enjoy what you are doing, and you resent it, you are resisting it, thus causing you stress.

Thankfully, we all have different passions or we’d all end up doing the same thing. Actually, I find it amazing that someone can love to do something I hate and vice versa, and that somehow there is somebody who loves to do everything there is. In other words, with all there is to do, there is an individual out there who loves to do each thing. Cool how that works out, huh?

I find this just as wondrous as the idea that we live on a huge ball flying through space, rotating at over 1000 mph, choreographed perfectly with a smaller ball circling it, revolving around another huge ball lit on fire, surrounded by several more huge balls. (My “scientific” definition of our solar system). : )

Everything about life has such perfect harmony… unless it doesn’t. And it doesn’t if you are not doing what makes YOUR heart sing. If you are defying the laws of your own natural attraction, not doing what you love, your system will be out of harmony, creating resistance and stress on planet YOU.

“So,” you ask, “if there is such perfect harmony with each person loving to do different things, then why do people end up doing things they hate doing?”

A kind of question that exposes its own absurdity, huh?

Here is my best guess at why.

Environment and Associations can be powerful, such as…

Family conditioning: Doing what your PARENTS thought you should do and living out THEIR ambitions. Haven’t you evaluated a career choice or professional path with the thought, “What would my parents think of this?” Even as adults we do this, I know I have. We end up doing what makes our parents puff their chest up when their friends ask them what you are doing with your life.

Social conditioning: Doing what your peers thought was cool. Picking a career path based on how it sounds when someone asks you at a cocktail party, “So what do you do?” Striving for a title that catapults you high on the societal totem pole. Picking a profession for the money so you can keep up with the Joneses. Becoming a slave to the material lure — a learned response that your personal worth is equal to your accumulated possessions.

Educational conditioning: Doing what your teachers or other mentors thought you should do. Our education system is great at mass producing little robots to work for someone who overcame the conditioning. Didn’t you hear, “Get good grades, so you can go to college, so you can get a secure job”?

And, then there is the “I have no idea how I ended up here” syndrome. “One thing led to another and ten years later, bang, here I am.”

Now is the time to TAKE BACK YOUR LIFE.

Don’t let society or other people be the puppet master of your life. Live by your own passions; live for your reasons, your values.

If your work causes you stress, that is a clue that it is going against the grain of Who You Are and what You were meant to Become.

I’m sure you have seen many people work at intense paces for long hours, but do not experience stress at all, because they absolutely LOVE what they do. They couldn’t be more exhilarated or having more fun lying on a beach.

When you have as much fun at your Vocation as you do at your Vacation, you have found your true love and passion. Then you are the richest among your friends, family and neighbors.

So, what is your passion? What work would make your heart sing and give you endless fulfillment? This is a subject I have spent a great deal of time processing for myself.

Let me give you some questions to ask yourself to find out. Only You know the answer to these questions.

O Who is living the life you most respect or admire?

O What about their life or profession is attractive to you?

O What did they have to do to get to where they are?

O What would you do if you had NO fear and were ten times bolder?

O If you could be / do anything without fail, what would you be / do?

O If you were awarded $10 million dollars (tax-free), what would you do with your time?

O What would you do if you only had 6 months to live?

O People say, “Oh, you are so good at ____”.

O Write down at least 20 talents you have been given.

O What are your 5 most important values in life?

O Describe the variables to your Ideal business.

O What is your working environment, what type of people do you work with, what do you do everyday?

O You are in your rocking chair and your great-grandchild asks you, “What are you most proud of in your life? What did you accomplish professionally & financially?”

With the answers to these questions, you will get a sense of what your true passions are, and what your ideal career path might be.

We have all been given the ability to dream — for a reason. We were given gifts, talents, ambitions and passions for different pursuits — for a reason.

You can say we were made to live out our dreams.

To not live in accordance to your dreams is living out of integrity with Who You Are and Who You were meant to Become, which will cause you stress.

Pursue what you love and the stress will fall away. Not to mention you will live an invigorating, passionate and fulfilling life, exercising the full measure of your God-given talents.

Now That’s Worth Thinking About!!!

“Your body is an amazing creation, capable of performing great wonders, but you can destroy that miraculous machine’s potential with an overdose of stress.” - Harry J. Johnson

Here’s a great article I ran across. I’ll be posting more of it next week.

What is the number-one cause of heart disease and cancer AND is also the most repressive, life-force-zapping and emotionally crushing influence in our lives?

Yep, you guessed it – Stress.

That is why I would like to share some unique insights I have discovered, learned from others, and exercised in the real world about how one can be an incredibly ambitious, highly productive achiever, yet do it all – stress-free (well, less stressed at least!)

Wow, imagine that… being an extremely productive and an exceptionally successful person, all without stress! You can, and here are some tips how:

1. Create boundaries.

I have learned a couple of unique philosophies as it relates to understanding and conveying your rules of engagement with others to be sure you don’t end up carrying the “weight of the world” on your shoulders.

1a. “Uh, you forgot your Monkey”

After complaining about something (the proverbial “dumping session”) once to a respected colleague they responded to me with, “All’s well and good, but that is your monkey and please don’t leave here without it because I don’t want it”.

I asked him what the heck he was talking about and he explained, “People walk around with all these monkeys on their shoulders looking to give them away to other people. It is the poor unsuspecting souls or those wanting to please who end up taking someone else’s monkey and adding it to the pile already on their shoulders. If you are trying to get the monkey of stress off your back, stop allowing people to pass THEIR monkey onto you.”

Now here is the trick, it is not the giver, but the receiver who is responsible. It is your choice whether you take their monkey on.

Sometimes people are looking to have you take their monkey i.e. – your child procrastinated and has a school project due the next day and you jump in to take the monkey; your co-worker complains about not having enough time to finish a project so you step in and take it on, etc.

Other times people might just be expressing problems or challenges going on in their lives – marriage, money, job, etc. When you depart you keep worrying about them and processing their problem in your head – walla, you are the new parent of their monkey’s twin.

Here is what I have learned to do – listen, have compassion, empathize and then leave the conversation with, “I’m sure you will figure it out”.

For some reason there is an amazing release with that statement because it communicates to them that I know it is their monkey to care for and I won’t be taking it with me and it tells me that it is not my problem to solve or monkey to carry so I don’t add burden or stress on myself about this.

So, recognize that most of the monkeys of stress on your back are ones you chose to put there and aren’t actually even yours to care for –

SET THE MONKEYS FREE!